Whenever there is a big decision coming up in life, the choices that you make depend only on one thing — your mindset.
So what is mindset? Wikipedia tells us:
“A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations held by one or more people or groups of people.”
The only thing which comes to my mind is who decides this mindset and how do we develop these fences to our mindset, is it something we are fed or do we just tend to give into fear of this uncharted territory which you have not seen.
When I was little kid, I was told what needs to be done. Nobody ever gave me the freedom to decide what is best or if the things which I do i will help me to be a better person or not. It has its own advantages and disadvantages if parents give enough freedom to take your own decisions. As a kid you may choose the wrong path, but what surprises me is that most parents are not open to listening to their children’s thoughts and this is what makes them keep things to themselves or to their friends .
A lot of times I think that your mindset is defined by your parents I was lucky enough to be given growth mindset but most parents tend to impart values which eventually leads their children to live a life with a fixed mindset.
Fixed mindset assumes that our character, intelligence, and creativity are static givens which we can’t change in any meaningful way, striving for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being smart or skilled. This quote sums it up nicely.
“If you imagine less, less will be what you undoubtedly deserve,” Debbie Millman
If you believe things about yourself like…
It’s pretty clear that those fixed mindsets will cause you to avoid experiences where you might feel like a failure. As a result, you don’t learn as much and it’s hard to get better.
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